Tuesday, February 1, 2011

My thoughts AKA My Rant


Ever have a day like this? Today is that day for me!

I feel judged, mistreated, and sad!

So, for anyone who actually reads this, here are my thoughts today.

Mothers have a really hard job sometimes! Not only are we in charge of everything and everyone, we have to listen to everyone judge and analyze our every move! No matter what we do, someone is always there to stand up and tell you why your decision is the incorrect one. So here is my thoughts to all of you HATERS!

My jobs include the following:
Chef
Maid
Nurse
Secretary
Taxi Driver
Entertainment Coordinator
Accountant (Sorta) Troy does the finances, but I am the bargain hunter
CEO
Nurturer
Laundry Lady
And I'm sure many others that are so routine right now, that I can't even think of them off the top of my head.

Women everywhere have been doing these same things for centuries. I am not anything special. I am not the best at any of the above listed jobs. And until I am, I try really hard not to judge other people who have shortcomings either.

Today I was judged, and very harshly for a decision I was making. Not only did it hurt my feelings, it made me feel as though I wanted to lash out and tell this person exactly what THEY were doing wrong. I bit my tongue. But here I am sitting here upset hours after this happened and I am realizing why it bothered me so much.

First of all, this person is a dear friend to me. I love them to death. And anytime you are really open with someone it leaves you open to getting your feelings really hurt. And often, when you become really comfortable with someone, you say things openly without thinking of how that is going to make them feel.

Secondly, very few mothers feel they are doing all that they can/should be doing! We all deal with fear of failure, or fear of letting others down etc. on a daily basis. We as Mothers, really need to hold our heads up high and stand up for ourselves! We deserve to feel we are doing our best.

So, All of you AMAZING mothers out there in the world, most of which will never read my blog, HERE'S TO YOU! You are doing a great job! You are loving your children and making the best decisions you can for them. You are teaching them, and loving them, and opening doors for them to have opportunities to grow!

To all you HATERS out there that are so quick to judge. ENOUGH! Try to be understanding of people and their situations. I can promise I will do my best not to judge you when you make a decision that I really don't agree with. That is your job as a mother to be the caretaker for your own family. It isn't really up to me and my family really isn't up to you!